Marriage tips for newlyweds
So you are engaged and on your way to getting married. As I was looking for wedding advice and tips I came across this article on “The Top 5 Marriage Tips for Newlyweds” on RockInMarriage.com and just loved some of the points so I thought that I would summarize it here. Their high level points are:
- Avoid the assumption that there’s one right way to do things. Everyone is different, has a different background, culture and point of reference. There are very few things in life that are black and white. Make sure that you work through things as a team and always consider the other persons perspective and opinions
- Have fun. When you were dating and “wooing” it is fun and exciting. Teh thrill of dating and getting to know each other creates that spark. Make time to have fun together. It is easy to get caught in our daily lives but put time aside to do things that you love to do together. Even if it is as simple as a walk in the park or a trip to the museum.
- Write down your agreements. I wasn’t sure about this at first but after giving it some thought it has some sound logic. We all have things that are important to us and if we have agreed to certain things writing these down is a good reminder of things that are important to both of you. The things on this list might be a good place to start.
- Be grateful. There is an old saying that “You can choose your friends, but not your family”. The most important friend that you will ever choose is your spouse. Be grateful that your partner choose you and show them that you mean it.
- Be flexible. We always have to choose our battles. Is it better to win the battle or the war. It feels a little wrong to use that phrase within the context of marriage but it holds some truth. There are always arguments or little disagreements in our relationships but as we are faced with these is it better to be “right” at this moment or to be flexible and make compromises to have a stronger relationship. It is in most of our natures to prove that we are right but this can come at a cost. Don’t always try to have the last word and consider your relationship when faced with these moments.
There are many sites and lists that provide advice on marriage but if we are considerate, respectful and are best friends almost anything can be worked out as a team.
Wedding Advice for the Bride
As we scour sites and information to help our visitors sometime we come across advice that isn’t directly related to wedding photography but is just worthwhile so we have to share. Wedding path had a few great points in this article. These tips do somewhat relate to your wedding pictures as they are about “On-the-day Wedding Tip” and getting ready.
- Don’t wear a T-Shirt but a buttoned shirt as taking it off won’t damage your hair.
- If your dress goes over your head than put a pillow case or a silk underskirt on your head so that it will go over easier
- Before your wedding day remove any labels on the bottom of your shoes
- Have a friend who isn’t in the bridal party to do up buttons or lace tie-ups
- Get the bride dressed first. Usually people plan to get the bride ready last but if time becomes a premium you don’t want to be rushing.
A Classic / Vintage Wedding
In a recent blog we looked at trends for 2013 and having vintage wedding photography was one of those trends. As luck would have it today we received an email from TheKnot.com on having a classic wedding. Here is a summary of some of their points.
- Your Style: Incorporate a classic style into your wedding, think Jackie O
- Venue: Select a setting that has a historic feel. Casa Loma, Dundurn Castle, Royal York Hotel or King Edward Hotels, Hart House’s Great hall, The Allan Gardens or many others.
- Your dress: Look for sophisticated ball gown and possibly tails for the guys.
- Choosing your colors: Select colours that have a vintage feel, all white, gold, silver or Tiffany blue
- Flowers and Decor: Go with a classic feel (doesn’t have to be stuffy), roses, linens, candelabras etc…
- Music: Music plays such an important role in setting the feel. Vintage wedding options include a big band or piano player. If you are going with a DJ select music that fits the period you are emulating
- Toast: champagne flutes in a classic look will ad to the overall ambiance
If you are planning a vintage wedding we will happily work with you to make sure the wedding photography reflects the vintage wedding style.
2013 Wedding Photography Trends
Each year we see new wedding photography trends. Brides and grooms are looking for something a little different and to have their wedding be differentiated from others they have been to recently. So with that what are we starting to see as trends that are emerging in 2013.
Black & White / Sepia Photography
B&W and sepia images were popular back in the 2000’s but they are making a comeback across all genres of photography and weddings are no exception to this. It gives a nice classic feel. Shooting images to be done in black and white isn’t always as simple as just shooting in color and converting . You need to look for the contrast of tones that will make for an image that will stand out in B&W. Have a look at the photographer portfolio in B&W to make sure it fits with the style you are envisioning.
Many brides are looking to tell a story with their pictures. Your special day is about the beginning of your story together and telling this is of critical importance. When we look at an editorial style it usually involves taking images of some of the smaller and unique details that show the atmosphere of your wedding day. With this we often involve a second shooter to capture some of the more candid moments.
Having that glamour moment is starting to become more popular among brides. Who doesn’t want to feel like they are on the cover of a magazine in a stunning dress. To accomplish this look we will need to plan out this well in advance. We will need to scope out a venue that will allow for this kind of imagery or it can be done after if you feel like getting back into your dress and doing your hair/makeup the a few days later or when you get back from your honeymoon and are feeling relaxed.
Vintage Wedding Photography Trends
With the trend of B&W we are seeing extensions into a vintage feel. Sometimes this involves the theme of the entire wedding. More lace on the cake and decorations, vintage accents and the look of the dress and outfits have a vintage feel. If you are planning a vintage wedding we can work with you to have your photographs fit to your look and capture that ambiance.
As we move through the season we will highlight more wedding photography trends that we see emerging this year.
Rain Wedding Photography Planning
When planning any wedding if it is an outside wedding or if you are planning your pictures in a garden, by the lake, conservation area etc.. outside you should always have a plan or two for various weather scenarios. If there is a little drizzle we will cover out equipment but will the garden grounds be soft or muddy? Is that OK? Will all the ladies bring flat shoes (heals really dig into the mud). You can also get some lovely photographs using fun or clear umbrellas.
That might be great for the wedding party but will it be OK for the younger and older guests / family? We may need to split up the pictures and do some outside and some indoors?
What is the plan if it is a thunderstorm and the weather is inappropriate for anyone to go outside. Before your special day we will need to understand what the hall or church can accommodate for large group pictures?
Did you want to get dressed back up the next days or a few days later and do a post wedding photography session? There are many reasons to due this, not just the weather.
As with every one day event planning for all occasions is an important part.
Day After Wedding Photography
A new trend for Brides and Grooms is to schedule a wedding photography session the day after the wedding day. If you are not leaving immediately after to go on your honeymoon setting up a post ceremony photo-shot allows the photographer to focus on family and friends set up as well as candid photographs of the day. Odds are pretty good that the day after you will feel more relaxed and there will be less time pressure to “fit it all in”. You don’t have to schedule this early so don’t worry you can sleep in. Generally the best light is later in the day (in the 2 hrs before sunset).
Wedding Beauty Tips For The Bride
There are a few sites that offer great all around advice for your wedding. The Knot is one of those tools. If you haven’t been there yet, take a look. As I was looking around I like this article on starting early (as soon as you are engaged) with your beauty regime. I will summarize some of the points, especially those that will make a difference with the wedding photographs.
- Start having your nails done frequently (weekly or bi-weekly) as everyone will be asking to see your ring.
- Look at whitening your teeth, this can be through your dentist or at home but whitening will pay off in your wedding photographs
- 3 months or more before the wedding day start getting regular facials, it will improve your skins health and complexion making your skin look clearer and brighter in the pictures, don’t forget to moisturize regularly
- Don’t forget your lips, make sure you regularly use balm to have them look healthier on your special day
- Get in shape and eat healthier, if you feel better you will look better
- Plan all your makeup, hair and other beauty needs well in advance and have a trial run if you can.
You will always look gorgeous on your special day, these tips will help with that little extra and really bring out your beauty in the wedding photographs.
Dressing for a Engagement Photography Session
We get asked a lot about what you should be wearing for an engagement photography session or any session for that matter. Engagement photography is a special time. First and foremost the outfits you pick should be a reflection of both of you and your personality. If you have an outfit or piece that is meaningful for you than bring or wear it. There is always an opportunity to do a change or two to capture different moods.
- Don’t be afraid of colour, a splash of pink or vibrant shirt can really jump out in the pictures.
- You don’t need to be in the same colour but make sure you are in the same palette or complimentary
- Colors located in direct opposition to each other are termed “complementary” colors. That means they complement each other. That means they look good together.
- This is another good article on combining colors an neutrals.
- Keep away from logo’s or to many / bold patterns, general solid dark colors flatten the most
- Make sure you are wearing things that are flattering to your body type.
- Sleeves can often flatter your arms
- Boots can stretch your legs and make them look longer
- Collars on guys make a nice frame to their face
- V-necks on women help elongate the your neck
- Try not to have to much loose clothing as it is generally less flattering
- Here are a few tips from harpersbazzar
- Take care with your makeup and nails
- You will have these photographs for ever and be sharing with lots of people, if possible have your hair and makeup professionally done
- Get your nails done if you can, maybe for both of you. Remember your hands will be a focal point in these pictures
- Take a few test shots. If you can try on your outfits before you come to your session and have a friend take a few pictures of the two of you with your camera just to see how they look together.
- Bring some things that are meaningful, if he played you songs on the guitar than feel free to include it. Is there a special gift or item from when you were dating. A few nice pictures with those items ads a sentimental touch to the photography session.
Wedding Photography – The details
In life sometimes it is the details that we forget and wish we remembered most. Your wedding and your wedding photography is no exception. When you are planning your special day don’t forget to have good pictures of all of the little details. How did your hair, nails, makeup look right after you were done. A close up of your shoes, rings still in the box. What did you flowers look like as soon as the arrived when they were at their freshest. The detail on all of the dresses. The programs, centerpieces and all of the items that you spent so much time carefully selecting.
Someday you might want to share these little things with you grand-kids ……
DIY Wedding Photographer
Sometimes due to budget or other reasons (destination weddings) you can’t have a professional wedding photographer. Generally we wouldn’t recommend it as after your special day those pictures will be what you have to cherish and share with friends, family, your children. But if you can’t than we thought we would share some advice we have and some advice that others have shared to make your pictures as good as possible.
- Plan ahead. Weather you are a professional or an amateur know what pictures and groups of people you want to get and have a list. It is very easy to forget something on the day of.
- Before the big day practice in different lights. It is much different taking photos in bright sunshine than it is on a cloudy day or late at night at the reception. You don’t want your pictures to be blown out due to bright sunlight
- Learn you camera and lenses. Depending on what type of camera you have there are many features that might be available to you. You will get better wedding photography if you understand what your camera can do. There are plenty of videos on youtube to learn the basics. Most cameras allow you to put them in a mode where you adjust one setting (like ISO) and the camera adjusts the rest. This can allow for some additional pictures that you wouldn’t have otherwise gotten.
- If you are going to use a flash be careful, don’t point it right at someone.
- Take lots of pictures. You have a better chance of getting everyone’s eyes open and capturing a wedding photo of a moment you weren’t expecting.
This article on the new your times has a few more tips as you get more advanced. Also make sure everyone has fun…